Truth and Feedback

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Truth and Feedback by Kyle Louw, an NLP Practitioner and poet. Kyle is 5th from the right on photo.

The Hardest Pill to Swallow

I was recently humbled by a stranger. Her points were valid, and if I learnt anything as a kid growing up, it was that the harder the medicine is to swallow, the better it is for you. The details of her feedback does not matter, for Truth works in much the same way. We get defensive when people say things about us that are incorrect, and we become aggressive when we know there is truth in what is being said. Are we so afraid to face our insecurities that we mask them behind fake smiles and so-called socially acceptable or politically correct behaviour?

We sometimes forget the power of our intentions. A simple exercise. Apply a fake smile as wide as you can to your face … Now! Hold it, hold it. Watch how that fake smile could, can, slowly transform itself into a genuine smile. Take it one step further. Watch how in the confusion of your mind going from a ‘fake’ state into a ‘genuine’ state, actual laughter or joy surfaces, which in turn creates a happy state. And to think that the happy state you are now feeling came from a ‘fake’ smile.

People casually say “just be yourself,” and while this is a good statement, I say being yourself isn’t good enough! Rather – be the best version of yourself. I see your potential, and just because you can’t see it yet, does not mean it doesn’t exist.

“All the great geniuses of the world were inspired and driven by their desire to enrich the lives of others. When you study their lives, you will discover that this desire became almost an obsession for most of them. It consumed them and occupied every cell of their minds” – Robin Sharma

In Serge Kahili Kings ‘Mastering Your Hidden Self – A Guide to the Huna Way’ he teaches MAKIA (mah-kee-ah) – Energy flows where attention goes.

When you dwell on emotions you let them control your life. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed is a good example of this. You wake up in a bad mood, be it from a dream or something that happened the day before (more on this later). Your normal everyday routine begins, you then stub your toe, adding to the anger. You may then accidently spill your coffee on your lap, this begins to make you agitated, and as you open the fridge at work you see that someone has stolen your favourite yogurt. Now you are infuriated, spending the whole day becoming increasingly angry at everyone and everything around you.

Focus is the fuel for your positive or negative perceptions. Don’t let that bad moment ruin your entire day by dwelling on it! You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results.

Let it be clear, I speak as if I have all the answers. I don’t! A person I didn’t know was able to show me that, however I am not afraid to go in search for the answers; the question is whether or not you are willing to search.

The good news is you don’t have to look very far. “People have all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes. There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states (moods).”

As always: “Whoever you think you are, you are always more than that!”